I’m starting to feel exhausted by seeing asexuality and especially aromantic related posts where sex- and/or romance-favourable people feel attacked and invalidated by sex- and/or romance-repulsed individuals (and everything in between or around the spectrum) or vice versa. Or when aromantic people get mad because sometimes people tag or take some aro experiences as ace experiences.
Like. Could people just chill? The experiences are not universal! Not each person has the same experience as someone else, and it doesn’t mean YOU are any less valid than someone else!
I have been following some aspec community blogs here for a while now, and I’m seriously starting to feel like I need to start unfollowing soon because I just don’t have energy for seeing posts like these over and over again. I usually try to stay away from communities and groups just because of things like this, I’m usually much better off alone. Within this it isn’t really people discriminating each other but more like people taking every different aro/ace/aroace experience as aphobia or a form of oppression. Within their own community. Why?
I myself am aroace. A loveless or aplatonic, touch-repulsed aro. And a sex-repulsed ace. Sometimes I tag aro posts with ace because both of those sides of me relate to the thing. Sometimes there’s an ace post, and it speaks to my aro side too, so I also tag it with that. It harms absolutely no one if I know my terms and myself, and tag the posts the way I want. This is just a website, for fuck’s sake!
So please, people, stop taking everything so seriously and making everything more difficult than what it already is. Let people be who they are, let them use tags and terms they want, and just be you and use the tags and terms that feel like you! Someone else thinking and/or feeling a bit differently from you is not taking anything away from you as an individual, your personal experience is as valid as anyone else’s. That’s why we are individuals and not a bunch of clones, and it’s a good thing. Thank you.
